In Her Suitcase is a section on Pink My Ride that turns the spotlight on women who inspire me, who can inspire you, and who try to create their best lives by coloring their journeys in their own unique and remarkable ways.
This is a special kind of In Her Suitcase interview because it’s my birthday week! This edition is called In Our Suitcases, because it’s a collaboration with my fellow April babies and two of my dearest friends whom I admire so much — Aisa Dela Cruz and Daisy Borlongan. We all turn 28 this month, and we’ve been having joint birthday celebrations for as long as I can remember!
This interview has only one question: At 28 years old, what do you know so far?
We’re no life experts (far from it!), but what we have to say are based on our personal 28-year journeys. Read on as we candidly share thoughts, lessons, and realizations that we’ve picked up along the way!
Aisa: Always find a way to help your parents or give back. They bore you into the world and raised you, so helping them and giving back is a must. As the eldest, I learned that you have to be responsible and be a leader to be respected, admired and for your younger siblings to follow suit and be good people themselves. Always protect them. Lastly, practice how you want your future family to be, with your family now.
Carmel: Time runs pretty fast, and life is unpredictable. Spend as much quality time with them as possible.
Aisa: Always have a spare something for your friends when you go out. Spare change, spare shoes, spare clothes, spare plastic and canvas bags, spare toiletries and medicines. You never know what may happen!
Daisy: “The right people, the ones who really belong in your life, will come to you, and stay.” – from Will Smith! Also, friendship will make you do things you’re not used to! Like sharing life learnings online! (Right, Carms? Haha lol.)
Carmel: Funny how really good friends of mine (these two included) sometimes make me go WTF but really, I couldn’t imagine going through the journey without them!
Aisa: In terms of loving a man, knowing a man’s personality is important as it will make them admirable, respectable, and loveable and will make you proud of them in the long run. In terms of a relationship, the most important thing is really constant and honest communication. The second most important is always have fun!
Daisy: Expect the unexpected!!!
Carmel: The 21-year old version of me was way too stubborn to admit what I’m about to say. I actually still find it hard to admit (hashtag pride) but I’ll say it anyway — Hi Mom, hi Dad…you were right kthanksbye.
Aisa: Good foresight and productivity really matter in creating excellent work. It also helps to read a lot about the industry you’re part of. Patience and maturity also matter, especially in dealing with different kinds of people.
Daisy: Don’t procrastinate. You’ll eventually have to do it anyway!
Carmel: Know your WHATS — what drives you, what motivates you, what you value. More importantly, know your WHYS — why you’ve chosen to do what you do, why you’ve chosen to be where you are. There was a time when work started to feel meaningless, when I was looking for a deeper sense of fulfillment. Revisiting my whats and whys really helped me overcome this crisis.
Aisa: Think more positively, relax and try to speak more about good than bad. Also, foster good foresight and productivity in all aspects of life not just in work. Be responsible and disciplined. But again don’t forget to have fun! (I foresee a life of having parties until I am in my one hundreds!)
Daisy: Where mistakes can be endless but so are learnings!
Carmel: “There are some things you learn best in the calm, and some in the storm”, by Willa Cather. Very true!
Aisa: I can’t say much about this because I think God has yet to show me my more specific purpose.
Daisy: Bwahaha ang hirap. Pwede bang pahabol?
Carmel: It takes time to find it, but I think it’s just right within us. I think the first steps toward finding it are to discover, accept, and embrace who we really are and what makes us special. As famous funny girl Lucille Ball puts it, “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
That’s it! Our journeys are far from over, so who knows, what we just shared may change in the future. We’re all pushing 30 but we’re still very young in so many ways — there’s still lots to learn, lots to experience, lots to discover. Still, we’re thankful for the 28 years and for all the experiences that have molded us into the women that we are today. And of course, we’re thankful that we’ve gone through them together, every step of the way!
Now, in terms of these aspects of the journey, we’d like to know — what do YOU know so far?
Aisa Dela Cruz
The “Child-Woman”. Aisa’s childlike side dominates conversations on light-hearted topics like classic local showbiz, Korean pop, the latest online viral video or meme-generated joke. On the other hand, the woman in her can vigorously go on about education governance, new forms of activism and gender politics. Whether child or woman, Aisa’s a passionate chatterbox, and there never is a dull moment! To read about such topics as seen through the eyes of this child-woman, visit Aisa’s blog at http://www.aisadelacruz.wordpress.com.
Daisy’s distinct and decorous voice, her flair for women’s fashion, and her responsible nature all give her this demure facade. But underneath all that is a fun and adventure-loving Daisydoo. She runs. She surfs. She travels. She can eat fifteen (!!!) sticks of isaw in less than an hour! She’s sweet and affectionate yet direct and straightforward. You can always count on her to join you on a good adventure! Daisy is brand manager for Dorothy Perkins Philippines, one of my favorite stores! Please like their Facebook page here.
Photo credit: Aisa Dela Cruz, Daisy Borlongan, Stylebible.ph, TV Fanatic